Husband had an argument with an elderly female local this morning - not one of our fellow sheltered housing residents, but someone who lives nearby. It was something and nothing really, a bit of a misunderstanding, the woman raised an objection and husband first contradicted and then argued with her. The prudent thing to do would have been to simply acknowledge her with an "Ok, sorry" and walk away, rather than getting involved in an argument. I wasn't present, so I only have husband's version of what happened, and he sometimes forgets things or leaves out things which don't present him in the best light, shall we say. I always think of possible consequences of words and actions - husband doesn't. Ever. Husband always used to be very laid back, now with his cognitive impairment he is often confrontational and argumentative, which is sometimes difficult to deal with. I've learnt to just bite my tongue and take myself off into my bedroom or the garden, to walk away from the situation - some things are just not worth the aggravation and I would say this confrontation with the local woman was probably one of those things. All I said to husband was that it's not a good idea to get involved in arguments with people we live near, and he should perhaps avoid her in the future. I just hope nothing further comes of it.
I'm turning off comments for this post, I'm not asking for advice but simply getting something off my chest so that it doesn't fester in my brain for ages.
