Husband's GP visit was as frustrating as ever, in fact worse I think. He doesn't give all the relevant information to the doctor, not even the important stuff....I had to keep adding bits. He also contradicts himself (and me), goes off at a tangent, interrupts me - and even himself! (now there's a special skill). He also fibbed about how long he's had the problem so I had to correct that (it's in his notes that he has cognitive impairment and that I'm his registered carer, so they are aware of what he's like). I wish he came with a zip over his mouth, it would make life so much easier at times. The GP, a very nice lady doc who we've not seen before, did tell husband that he should listen to me more! He won't, of course, he will have forgotten that instantly as soon as we left the surgery. She's arranged for him to have a couple of tests and has given him some medication as an interim measure, he's going back there for a full blood test this morning.
On the way home yesterday, he actually told me a couple of things the GP said to him......I had to remind him that I was in the room with him so had heard her!
I can report that the recliner chair is indeed very comfortable - my weary aching limbs had a lovely reclined snooze in it yesterday afternoon....well, apart from husband coming in from the garden and talking loudly at me as soon as he walked through the door, waking me up 😒. Although I slept pretty well last night, I'm still feeling rough today, aching as though I'd been run over by a steamroller. I won't be shifting any more furniture around in the near future.
I saw the Ozzy Osbourne funeral procession on the TV news yesterday, poor Sharon Osbourne looked utterly broken, my heart bled for her. This might be controversial, however, but does anyone else think that the public response to a well known figure dying seems to have become so OTT, it's like 'the thing to do', almost like mass hysteria?
I read a good article on public grief surrounding a famous death, this was about Ozzy, it said whilst we did not know the person, they become entwined into our lives, that special song, 1st dance at your wedding, playing when your child is born, the tune from a great summer memory. Hubby and I are on our second marriage, and we often tell each other memories when an old song is playing, music is totally entwined in our lives. The music of our youth was iconic, and it has stayed with us, I have not shed a tear for him or his family, but it is a sad time.
ReplyDeleteOh gosh your husband sounds SO much like Alan, the only difference from all the things that you list is that Alan doesn't interrupt himself ... yet!!
ReplyDeletePeople do seem to feel the need for mass public shows of grief a bit more than they used to I agree, but Ozzy is very well loved in Birmingham and always has been. The profits from that last concert have been shared between three Birmingham charities that were close to his heart.
Infuriating re doctor's visit! 😆 On one occasion when I'd taken my husband to the doctor the GP said "good morning, how are you today?" and my husband replied "I'm very well and I have no idea why we're wasting your time" I was furious but, of course, the GP understood the situation and - after I'd explained the problem - arranged for the necessary tests. It left me with elevated blood pressure, that's for sure!
ReplyDeleteThese public outpourings of grief seem to be very frequent now. I think it all probably started with Diana, but it's really taken off since then. I'm not a cold fish, and I cry freely at funerals of those I knew and loved. I also shed a tear in two at the poignant bits of the late Queen's funeral when I watched it on tv, but no way would I be out in the streets sobbing into the cameras. I find it odd, and I wonder how healthy it is, tbh. Seems a bit like mass hysteria...
It must be so frustrating and annoying for you when your husband interrupts, contradicts and goes off at a tangent. GP appointments are time limited, so you need to get straight to the point (something I know you appreciate), so you must feel that extra pressure. I hope you can get to the bottom of his problems and that there is something that can be done.
ReplyDeleteAs for these public displays of grief, I can sort of understand it, but have never felt the need to join in. When the three little girls were brutally murdered here last year, I just wrote a very short note in one of the books of condolence. A sort of written hug for the families. Grief is a very personal thing and I'm not sure crowds of people sobbing and wailing helps the grieving families. xx
Very frustrating for you and I'm sure you feel like screaming (and probably do). I'm glad my OH is very with it, has his annoying habits like dropping crumbs everywhere but I know I'm very lucky. Re: Ozzy Osborne, he was a Brummie through and through, but he didn't treat his 1st wife and children very well, smashed stuff up, did drugs and overdid the alcohol. As you say mass hysteria, did it start with the death of Rudolf Valentino. Xx
ReplyDeleteI agree about the public outpouring of grief has increased immensely in recent years. As someone else said, I think it started when Diana died. Very frustrating appointment with your husband and I used to have the same difficulties when going with my mother. It’s good that you are noted as his career or goodness knows what would happen. Enjoy some reclining on your lovely chair. Catriona
ReplyDeleteThat sounds just like the appointments I have with my mum, so you have my sympathy.
ReplyDeleteI have a famous relative who died in 2019. The streets were lined with people weeping at his funeral. It's not my sort of thing, though I have shed tears when famous people have died. There are some that have affected me, and still do... George Michael, Robin Williams, Shane Warne, but I cried privately for them.
When my mother died 20 years ago I said that was it I had buried them all according to their wishes, that was it no more funerals. I have told my daughter I want direct cremation in a cardboard box told husband if he goes before me that is what he is getting and if after me daughter has her orders. I have had enough of the trauma of funerals to last a life time let me grieve in peace.
ReplyDeleteWhat an infuriating visit to the GP you had. Wouldn't it be nice if he actually listened to the doctor and you.
ReplyDeleteGod bless.