Husband had been wittering on about the Disney+ TV channel, his daughter and SiL had set it up for him on our TV the last time they were here, as a User on their account I think, I don't really know - all I know is he didn't have to pay for it. Well, for some reason or other, the channel disappeared off our TV, I don't know why, and husband has been going on about it ever since. So yesterday I set up an account on Disney+ for him, he said he was happy to pay for it out of his bank account. As with anything tech-related, it wasn't easy - the passcode number displayed on our TV screen wouldn't activate the account, I kept getting a message on my phone saying the number wasn't recognised - why not? It was the TV that generated the number! And then husband asked why I wasn't getting a new number but instead trying to input the number belonging to his daughter and SiL!! Erm, I had no idea it was their number (why would I even know that? It just came up on the TV), and it was a pity he hadn't said that before I'd spent several minutes tearing my hair out wondering what on earth I was doing wrong 😠. Anyway, it's done now and husband immediately - within 2 minutes of the account being set up - started watching some stupid superhero film 😒. I would say at least it kept him quiet, but it doesn't as he commentates and talks all the way through anything on TV. He also nodded off a few times 😒😒, I don't know why he bothers watching anything, he never sees all of any programme.
This morning I was outside early (by 8 am) putting washing on the line, it's forecast to start raining by 10 or 11 am. It's already clouding over, so I asked husband to get the concertina airer out of the carport, check it for cobwebs and set it up in the hallway - it's very windy so might blow over if I left it in the carport. He brought it in - covered in cobwebs and with a dead 8-legged thing hanging off it. I've been a serious arachnophobe almost my entire life, I can trace it back to an occurrence in my childhood - even dead ones unnerve me, and husband knows this, of course. I protested, but husband was completely scathing, making fun of my fear and even deliberately holding the airer right beside me. He's become downright blinking nasty lately, for no good reason (would there ever be a good reason for deliberate nastiness?). I told him off in no uncertain terms, reminding him how I'd set up the blasted Disney channel for him the day before and told him not to bother asking me for any similar favours in future.
Daily life with him is becoming ever more challenging. As I've said many times, I know he can't help it - I do make allowances for that but I'm not putting up with nastiness, unwarranted criticisms and temper outbursts aimed at me for no reason. I'm not a punching bag.
Oh, Sooze, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. No, you're not there for your husband to snipe at, belittle or generally put you down. But I can appreciate that it is difficult and wearing for you to have to constantly defend your feelings. Knowing that he can't really help it, doesn't make it any easier for you, does it? Sending hugs. xx
ReplyDeleteMy Dad's girlfriend had Alzheimer...several years in. She became terribly nasty to all of us and to Dad. It got worse after a while. She started throwing things and I said Enough! Putting her hands on Dad...Told her family to come get her and deal with her. She ended up in a nursing facility for dementia patients. She was constantly angry and could be cruel to others. Truly, it's not his fault but I sincerely hope his doctors are working with you. They really don't push treatments...you have to force the issues.
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Donna
Oh dear, I feel for you, I really do. While his behaviour is nasty, it’s also quite childish isn’t it. You’re quite right to tell him off for it. I hope you can have a better rest of the day. X
ReplyDeleteSooze it amazes me how alike our husbands are. Same here rubbish TV, multi channels, constantly flicking through them all and sound up high because he has tinnitus! It is so wearing. June
ReplyDeleteWhat a horrible thing to happen especially when your husband knows you have a phobia about spiders. Hopefully the Disney channel will keep him occupied and let you do your own thing. Catriona
ReplyDeleteThis sounds very hard on you. Do please tell your GP about the changes in your husband - it's quite important to have this behaviour recorded somewhere official, in case it escalates. Sending hugs 🤗
ReplyDeleteYou are perfectly right telling him off. His cognitive condition might encourage him towards laddishness but he still knows right from wrong therefore there is no excuse to behave towards you like this.
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