It's a misty morning here at the van park, with a bit of a damp chill in the air. Forecast to get better though.
Husband has been exhibiting some strange behaviours lately, which I assume are connected to his cognitive impairment. It's as if he's lost all sense of what's appropriate or not, with regard to his interactions with others. I've been told that he's asked some inappropriate or cheeky questions or favours - I don't mean anything rude, nothing like that, just stretching the boundaries of what could be considered reasonable to ask as a favour. The people in question (2 of them) politely declined, but both then mentioned to me that they found it a bit strange and uncomfortable. They both know about husband's cognitive impairment, so made allowances for that. I also discovered that husband had sold a present I'd bought him to a friend, without mentioning it to me. So that's something else to worry about, I can't 'police' him all the time, I can only ask people to take what he says with a pinch of salt and smooth ruffled feathers over later, if necessary.
Life certainly isn't getting any easier, that's for sure.
Sending hugs. It's so tough and you are amazing for dealing with it.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry this is happening to you...Is there No doctor that can help you? I guess just be firm with your friends at the park about his condition...let them know this kind of talk goes with dementia. If they can't understand that, then you don't need them...I'm sorry he sold your gift...My beloved Uncle had dementia and my Aunt discovered one night, that he'd left the house naked...and was peeping in people's windows. Thankfully, a sweet neighbor brought him home. That was the last straw, for my Aunt...but he was totally unaware of what he'd done. He was hospitalized then sent to a nursing home. My Aunt was devastated.
ReplyDeleteMy Fathers' girlfriend also had it...so I truly understand your heartbreak.
I'm praying for you sweetie...been there.
hugs
Donna
How worrying for you both. You've done the right thing by explaining to your friends and neighbours that your husband has cognitive problems and may do/say things that are out of character. You need all the support you can get from people around you. Sending huge hugs. xx
ReplyDeleteThis happens as the dementia worsens. Prayers prayers. I have no advice. I lived this with my best friend from the time we were toddlers. She kept him home, but whew….she had children and helpers came in. You sweet girl.
ReplyDeleteSadly like Donna I have witnessed this with my late Mother in law. She used to say very hurtful things to Father in law, inappropriate things to family and went wandering at night a couple of times before the door had to be locked the the keys hidden from her. You have done the right thing to let people know of his condition on the quiet so they can try and understand.
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