Thank you all so much for comments, Wednesday was very hard and emotional, elder brother and I did feel we wouldn't be surprised if it were the last time we saw Mum. Younger brother, who previously wasn't coping at all well and mainly shutting himself in his bedroom to avoid the situation (he has a myriad of health problems himself, both physical and mental), has really stepped up to the mark, he now looks after Mum very well, in conjunction with sister.
The latest bloods mum had done earlier in the week showed that she has yet another urine infection, hence why she was feeling even more unwell when we saw her. More antibiotics, which are starting to kick in now. She's perked up a bit and has eaten a little yesterday and today.
Younger bro put a post on Facebook last night saying mum is on the mend. We older siblings are pretty sure she's not, she's just having a couple of better days, he's just being overly optimistic and hopeful because he wants her to be better. Anyhow, she's not too bad at the moment and that's what counts.
Sister arranged for her son and daughter in law to both meet up with her at mum's, each in their own cars, so they could all set to and clear out mum's bedroom. Sis settled mum comfortably downstairs, so they didn't have to keep disturbing or moving her - and, more importantly, so she wasn't there to stop them getting rid of a lot of her unnecessary belongings! They sorted out and took away loads of stuff that mum had accumulated over the years - nothing important or precious to mum, just things like masses of clothes - they filled 12 bin bags. As she's virtually bedbound now, she doesn't need all those clothes, about 80% of which she didn't wear anyway. They also took out 2 chests of drawers, 2 bedside cabinets (she had 4!), a large bookcase, a cupboard and a clothes rail. Sis's son and DiL took all the stuff away in their cars, to the tip and charity shops. The room looks SO much better now, neat and tidy and comfortable, with plenty of room (sis sent me photos), mum's really pleased. She loves her new electric riser chair as well.
Sis has just messaged me to say mum's feeling sick again, so looks like it's back to 'normal' again 😕. Poor old thing. And another of mum's long-time friends died last week, that's 3 or 4 in the last year or two....she'll soon be the last of her gang of cronies.