Thanks for supportive comments....the cake looks a mess but tastes good - we're keeping it obviously, I wouldn't pass it on. Anyway, custard hides everything. I'll make her another one.
Finally!! brother has managed to arrange a care package for mum, in fact the first carers arrived yesterday evening.....first one, then another within a few minutes. Should only have been one, bit of a mix up apparently. Typical, just like buses - nothing for ages then 2 arrive. He's also arranging for the lifeline emergency button thingy, and a key safe to be fitted outside her front door so the carers can let themselves in.
Yet another ambulance had to be called out for her Tues night, as she was very poorly again - having been discharged from A&E with just a packet of pills the same morning. The ambulancemen, after thorough assessment and some treatment, said it wasn't strictly necessary for her to be taken to hospital but they would if family wanted - brother and sister both said no, as she would most likely just be kept in A&E for several hours again, which distresses her and means they have to sit waiting around for hours. The ambulancemen agreed she needs daily care from professionals and they themselves got on the phone to Social Services and told them that. After firm and frank discussion from my brother, who's an ex policeman, they agreed. We're glad that it's all happening now, but have had to fight very hard indeed to get it, and we're all drained as a result.
Younger bro is now also getting the help he's sorely needed for a long time. So at least mum and he are sorted, for the time being, which is a weight off our minds.
Husband is feeling a lot better, thankfully - until the next UTI comes along! He's taking another wee sample in for testing today, his wee does look a bit cloudy again so wouldn't be at all surprised if another infection is already starting.
I feel like I've been hit with a sledgehammer and then run over by a steamroller, and had my brain sucked out. My hip is killing me and I've got a major tension headache and massively sore neck. But at least all the pains mean I'm alive. I'm just so tired, and tired of not being listened to.