Some good news last night - my Uncle H has staged a bit of a rally, he's improved enough to sit up in bed and even managed, with nurses help, to sit in his chair for a short while. He's been upgraded from red to orange status and the hospital are restarting his treatment. They say he's not out of the woods by any means, but there's definite improvement. He's clearly a tough old boy, despite having Parkinsons and heart disease - some years ago he went into hospital for routine stents, only to have a massive cardiac arrest whilst in theatre (the best place to have one!). He was put into a medically induced coma for a few days to aid his recovery, he recovered extremely well and continued with his active golfing and plane spotting life, until fairly recently when the Parkinsons advanced enough to put a stop to that. So there's always hope.
With regard to husband, he and I are going to have some serious chats (he doesn't know it yet!) whilst we're away in the caravan this week. This sitting around doing bugger all has got to stop, he's just giving himself a slow death. And it's no life for me, having to struggle to do everything and getting more and more resentful. He's dragging me down and I'm not having it, I'm 63 not 93, my life is not over! Nor is his. So there will be changes, and I'll make sure he sticks with them rather than doing things for a couple of days and then going back to his old ways like he always does. I'm not having my life defined as carer and general dogsbody, and he's not a helpless invalid - if my 84 y.o. seriously ill uncle can rally, so can husband.
I know what you mean, I'm dreading the winter as he won't go into the garden when it's cold and damp. He'll just sit in his chair and grump. Our flat is very small so I can manage it on my own but I don't see why I should.
ReplyDeleteExcellent news on both fronts!! I'll be praying for you to have strength!
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Donna
I hope your uncle continues to improve. They made 'em tough in those days! I also hope your husband sees that he needs to help a bit more around the house, for both your sakes! xx
ReplyDeleteGood news about your Uncle, I hope he continues to improve slightly. It may sound strange but it could have been the break from all the medication that actually helped. I know when my Dad was in his last few months he woke up feeling great and enjoyed an hour or so of feeling 'normal', once he had all his meds taken he slowly turned very poorly over the next couple of hours, every single day. It was heart-breaking to watch.
ReplyDeleteI hope you can sort things our with your hubby. xx
I don't blame you laying down the law to your husband. It is not good to just sit around and not good for you to have to do everything. I know everyone is different but my father in law is 89, he had heart failure some years ago and has a pacemaker. He lives alone, cooks, cleans, drives, has to be told off for doing too much at what is now our allotment plot. He says he feels better if he does something and does not sit about too long.
ReplyDeleteI hope for your sanity you can motivate your husband.
I hope like Sue said your Uncles improvement is not just a temporary thing. Best wishes to you.
Wow, what a come around for your Uncle!!!
ReplyDeleteGood for you. Sit him down and have a good long discussion until he gets it.
God bless.
I'm very glad about your uncle and, yes, totally agree. xx
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