Thank you everyone for your lovely comments, and helpful tips. Good idea to send the forms by recorded delivery, I'll do that, thanks.
I know we haven't got it yet so am not counting my chickens, but I feel so much better already after the lovely Age UK advisor said she thought we would almost certainly get Attendance Allowance. And when (if!) we get that, I should apply for Carers Allowance as I'm probably entitled to that as well......the forms for which she will also come and help me fill in. It just seems incredible that all the stuff I've been doing for husband for months and months (such as reminding him every day to take his meds, carrying cups of tea for him as he's likely to spill them, grabbing his arm to steady him when he staggers because of balance problems, and dozens of other things) are things that mean we're eligible for benefits and could have been claiming them ages ago. I just didn't know about it, I thought that to be eligible, husband would have to be unable to walk more than 100 yards, or be unable to wash or dress himself (although his dress sense leaves a lot to be desired!).
It takes a lot of worry off my shoulders (or it will do if we do get the benefits), as the windfall lump sum pension payment husband got 2 years ago is fast dwindling away. We'd hoped that it would tide us over until I receive my State Pension, but as that's still 3 years away and with the cost of living constant rises, it certainly won't last that long, we'll be lucky if it lasts another year.
Husband had his telephone pre-op assessment yesterday, he put the phone on loudspeaker so I could hear and contribute, as he was unable to answer some of the nurse's questions. She didn't have a date for his procedure, but said it should be within 4-6 weeks, so hopefully just before Christmas, she said. She also asked if he was willing to accept a cancellation or very short notice appointment, he said yes. Just as well I've done the Christmas shop online already, as he won't be allowed to drive for a week after the op. A neighbour has already offered to take him to hospital on the day, and will collect him if we can't get anyone else to - it'll probably be dark by the time he's allowed home and she doesn't like driving in the dark. Understandable, the hospital is about 45 mins drive away and not a direct route. I'm sure we'll find someone else to help.
I used my big slow cooker to bake some potatoes yesterday, I managed to fit 7 in, on a piece of baking parchment so they didn't stick. I did them for 5 hours on High, and they were cooked perfectly, even had crispy skins, although not as crispy as if done in the oven. I've kept 2 out for today's lunch, the rest I've frozen, to be zapped in the microwave when we have them.
We've got the plumber arriving at 9 am to fit a new part to the central heating, then we're going shopping. I'll make sure I stock up on things like coffee, tea, milk, dog food etc, so I've got enough in for when husband can't drive. I need to rearrange the freezer and make a bit more space to put the extra milk and stuff in, so that's my first job.