But then who said I was a lady?!?!
A while back husband was told by his consultant that he could go to Yeovil hospital for his prostate op if he wished, as our local big hospital in Taunton is snowed under and he wouldn't be able to have the op there for probably another year - he's already been waiting 2 years. He said yes to Yeovil and was told he should hear from them with an op date within 4 weeks and, if not, to ring for an update. Yesterday, I suggested he do that - he reckoned it was only about 3 weeks ago though. I checked back (good job I keep notes of dates) - it was actually 5 weeks ago, and he's heard nothing.
So I got him to ring yesterday.....after being passed from pillar to post, put on hold etc, he finally got told that yes Taunton had passed the paperwork to Yeovil, but hadn't heard anything back. They suggested he ring Yeovil direct and gave him the number. Which he wrote down wrong 😒 (well, he is dyslexic so not surprising), so I googled and found the number for him. After yet more being put on hold and passed around to different departments, he was eventually told that Yeovil have received no such referral and knew nothing about him! So he rang Taunton back again.....his consultant's secretary wasn't there, but he's been told a message has been left for her and she'll ring him today. Let's hope she does.
I was really hoping he would have had his op by now, or at least have an op date very shortly......now it looks like it won't be anytime soon - it wouldn't surprise me if he gets it in the middle of winter. Which is just what I didn't want. He'll be in hospital overnight, possibly 2 nights, and will be out of action for X amount of time afterwards (we don't yet know how long, but it will definitely be several days). Which means I've got to do absolutely everything whilst he's recuperating, not that I begrudge doing that, and take the dog out twice a day, possibly in bad weather, just like last winter when husband had his foot op and was on crutches and incapacitated for 6 weeks. But now my hip is so much worse than it was this time last year, so walking by myself is hard enough, without having a strong dog to contend with. And falling over worries me, I've done it a couple of times in the past few months (fortunately, once on a sandy beach, and the other time in a field, so had soft landings). Naturally, with being older and having a bad hip, I worry about breaking bones.
Obviously I want him to have the op - 2 years is a long time to be waiting for his prostate and bladder problems to be resolved, and to have to take 3 different meds for it daily, on top of all the heart meds he already takes. Before anyone suggests it, a couple of neighbours have offered to help out by walking Betty - however, Betty is a very strong and stubborn dog and needs careful handling, particularly as she's anxious around other dogs and can be reactive on occasions. The 2 people who've offered....it's very kind of them but, for differing and valid reasons, I wouldn't feel confident about either of them doing it. I WILL cope, I always do, but it just wears me out, mentally and physically.